Sexual Arousal
Gabby

Naomi, Mercedes and I were talking and she has a question for you…

Mercedes

It was your question, but OK.

so basically, how often is it normal to feel horny in a day?

Naomi

It’s normal to think about sex and get turned on multiple times in a day, especially when you first start going through puberty.

Mercedes

Good cuz Gabby is thirsty ALLL the time.

Gabby

I never said that!! 😡

Mercedes

Yea u did! U asked me if I thought James was hot, and u said every time u see his biceps you start thinkin bout him.

James is in all of ur classes! And the boy only wears tshirts!!

Gabby

I’m not horny all the time, and James and I have different gym.

Naomi

Horniness, aka sexual arousal, happens all the time, when you expect it and when you don’t. It’s never something to be embarrassed about, though it can make you feel self-conscious.

Gabby

thx Naomi. It’s not all the time tho.

Mercedes

even if you did, I agree wit you, that boy is fiiine.

Gabby

don’t even think about it Cede 😖

anyway my question wasn’t about James. Im feeling um… horny…. A lot lately even when I’m not around boys. What’s wrong with me :(

Mercedes

Nothing is wrong wit you, girl. Calm down.

Gabby

😡

Naomi

I’m sure you’re just trying to be helpful Mercedes, but stop ❤

She’s right though. There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes you are with the person you like (or you catch a glimpse of his biceps 😉) and you get turned on and you kind of expect that. Other times you are sitting in church and a wave overtakes you and it doesn’t make any sense.

Naomi

It’s completely common. Horniness will often rear its head when you’re in the absolute worst place for it to be. Don’t beat yourself up about it.

Your body is a Wild Thing that sometimes acts uncontrollably. Though it can feel extreme, there is no flashing sign above your head announcing to the world that you are horny. No one else can tell, I promise, unless you tell them.

Mercedes

boys may not have a sign, but they’ve got another way to tell lololol

Naomi

Lol, that’s true. Boy and girls are both going through the same thing, but be grateful it’s not as easy to tell when girls are turned on.

Gabby

lol yea I guess. Should I do anything about it when that happens again?

Naomi

If you are hit with a wave of sexual attraction, but don’t want to be, the best thing you can do is try to stay focused on what you were doing before you felt that way. I call it, hitting the “Pause Button.”

Keep focusing on that algebra problem, on the board, and tell yourself you’ll deal with your bad self later.

Mercedes

Then once you’re home just masturbate.

Naomi

That’s also a great option. If you haven’t experimented with masturbation yet, I highly recommend you do. masturbation is awesome for several reasons, one being that each time you explore your body, you’ll learn more about where and how you like to be touched. 

You can also have sex if you are horny. If that is something you already do. Consensual makeouts, handholding, humping with someone you trust is a great way to rid yourself of horniness, but trust your instincts and your comfort-level.

Also remember that horniness comes in cycles, just like your menstrual cycle. So if one week you are super turned on all the time, and then the next you don’t even think about it, don’t worry it’s completely normal. LOTS of people get really horny on their periods.

Gabby

that makes sense. James always gets me tho… and I think he likes me:)

Naomi

I want to hear more about this boy. He sounds fit.

Gabby

He’s on the wrestling team 😍

Naomi

Oh, I bet he does have nice biceps.

Mercedes

mmhmm 😉

Gabby

Ugh, now that I’m thinking about James’s biceps I’m starting to feel horny again
 😖

Naomi

just remember what I told you.

Mercedes

lol thx Naomi

Gabby

lol thx

Naomi

Anytime. Let me know how math class goeslol

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